Yesterday I was writing about how I've been sort of meh, and at midnight I just stepped outside and sniffled for a bit.
FaceBook memories popped up today with my post from New Year's Eve 2020 - among other things, I threw a pan of water over the back deck (throwing out water is some country's - I have no idea which one - way of banishing negative energy), then banged the lid and the pan together loudly while yelling "Bring it on, you bastand!"
As I said - that first year had a lot of chaotic energy. The second year -2021 - I honestly don't remember, which is a little unnerving, and maybe why I wrote compulsively in 2022.
But that compulsive writing was mostly internal meditation, where I was mentally, with a lot of analysis. It wasn't, for the most part, about anything I was doing. And I did a lot - I think. Should have written it down. I did meet a nice guy while I was getting lunch at the food truck one day when I heard him talking to someone else about how he liked doing demolition work. I hired him to come tear down and haul off the old goat shed (which had collapsed), and then to drag a few truckloads of stuff from behind the barn which were on Bob's "do something with this" list. And the old riding lawnmower (because of our uneven ground, the thing would often scalp one side while leaving the other untouched). The chipper mulcher which may or may not be able to be repaired. Got it all hauled off.
I got a battery lawnmower which is kind of fun to use, even if it looks silly considering that I have 5 acres. But I just do one section at a time and it's a lot easier than fighting the old riding one.
I mentioned weaving the ruana. I did not mention weaving 8 yards of cloth for a waulking demonstration at the Highland games next February (with a handspun weft). That was actually pretty satisfying.
But honestly, I'd really have to try to think of what I actually did last year. But the blog writing has helped - in January I list a lot of stuff that I wanted to get off my mind, and I did. It was my year of brooding.
I don't do New Year's resolutions. But, like last year, I do want to think about what I want to do this year. And I think I want to go back to my old blog. When I first started blogging, it was a way of recording what I was doing, and specifically what I was enjoying. I kept negativity out of it (so things like the death of my parents wasn't mentioned). It was a very positive thing, as both Bob and I would keep an eye out for "blog worthy" moments. ( http://ann-newsfromtheswamp.blogspot.com/ )
The idea is that you will find what you are looking for. If you're looking for negativity, you'll find it (it's easy!). But the same goes for positivity - hunt for it, and you'll find it. It's just a little harder sometime. Like the last month - having to get my AC ductwork repaired, and getting a hole in the roof, and my septic backing up over Christmas and getting sick after Christmas (not bad, just felt really tired and sore for a few days) and it's hard to be like Dr. Pangloss and say that this is the best of all possible worlds (is my English major background showing?)
I saw something online that resonated with me about trying to find happiness - it suggested that every day snap a quick picture of something that makes you smile. Just to get in the habit of keeping an eye out for such things.
I've gotten by OK since I lost Bob, but I haven't had much fun (Covid didn't help that). If I had to sum up Bob in one word, it would likely be "Fun." It was fun living with him - he had a quick mind and an offbeat sense of humor. I haven't laughed much in the last couple of years. I think the most fun I had was playing with Mike's VR set because it was new and different and very strange (even if I did crack my knuckle when I was trying to attack a zombie and punched a bookshelf instead).
I want some whimsy. I want some silliness. I want some fun. I want to relax and not be so grim (although I don't think most people would think of me that way). I want to enjoy myself.
So there's the New Year's intention. "I want to have fun and enjoy myself" which doesn't sound like it would be that hard but trust me - it's going to take some work. It would be much easier to just sit in a corner and continue to lick my wounds. Fun is going to take some work.
It would have been so much easier to have the usual resolution of "exercise more and lose weight." At least those you can let go after the first couple of weeks.